A Survivor’s Dream (A Poem)

This poem was written from the point of view of someone who has escaped an abusive situation. It's an actual dream that I had recently. I think the dynamics will feel familiar to anyone who has been in a similar situation; when an abusive person is upset, they are never at fault. It's always someone … Continue reading A Survivor’s Dream (A Poem)

J.O.Y.

Anyone else familiar with this acronym? For those not in the know, it represented what was supposed to be the hierarchy of needs within certain corners of evangelicalism as it was taught to children. It went:JesusOthersYourself Can we please talk about how toxic and damaging this is? What this teaches children is that, in the … Continue reading J.O.Y.

Evangelicalism: Martyr Complex And Shame

My upbringing in evangelicalism instilled me with a lot of shame for my identity. While I was told that the greatest thing in the world was to find my identity in Jesus, I was also taught that I would be hated because I found my identity in Jesus. I don't actually remember a time in … Continue reading Evangelicalism: Martyr Complex And Shame

Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

What I’ve Learned In 35 Years

This past weekend, I celebrated a birthday. It was a milestone birthday. I turned 35. I don't know how I managed to blink my eyes at 25 and find myself at 35. I don't feel like I am 35. And yet, I am. So bizarre how that happens, right?But thinking about hitting this ripe old … Continue reading What I’ve Learned In 35 Years

The Power of Self-Compassion by Laurie Cameron (A Book Review)

I've been on a self-compassion kick lately. It started a few month ago when I happened to stumble across a workbook at a bookstore. The workbook was called, "The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook" by Kristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD. The workbook introduced me to a whole new way of speaking to myself and understanding … Continue reading The Power of Self-Compassion by Laurie Cameron (A Book Review)

Mental Health in the midst of Pandemic

How are we all doing today? I'll be honest, I am struggling. I'm lucky. My partner has his job. We have a roof over our heads and food in our fridge. We're young and reasonably healthy. We're able to practice social distancing to protect ourselves and others. I know I am lucky. I know there … Continue reading Mental Health in the midst of Pandemic

Coronavirus and The End Of The World

In my home growing up, I was told to prepare myself for The Great Tribulation. The Great Tribulation, for anyone not familiar with either my work or the Last Days movement, is a doctrine within certain sects of Christianity that describes hardship in the end times. The prediction is that during this time of tribulation, … Continue reading Coronavirus and The End Of The World

The Church and Mental Health: A New Perspective on Anxiety

  Context: I grew up in a Christian home, moving from reformed churches to non-denominational churches in my youth. I chose a charismatic/Spirit-filled church to attend for many years as an adult. During my college years, my theology changed from being unexamined/whatever my church said to a more middle of the road approach on the … Continue reading The Church and Mental Health: A New Perspective on Anxiety

Loving Yourself Is Not Sin

A few days ago, while looking through my memories on Facebook, I saw an old post of mine. In this post, I was talking about how, at the time, I genuinely believed that I was unlovable. I saw myself as someone who didn't deserve love or companionship because I felt inherently broken. I couldn't envision … Continue reading Loving Yourself Is Not Sin