I am heartbroken. Utterly heartbroken. I don't know what to do with my grief. I don't know how to sit with all of this anger and shock and sadness. I just don't know. I've been quietly pushing back against dominionism and White christian nationalism for years. But most people could not see it. Until now.And … Continue reading What Happens Now?
Last week, I discussed deconstruction & complementarianism. I acknowledged how being immersed in a subculture that dictates to us how we should view and think of ourselves can have a devastating impact on one's mental health. While my focus in that post was on complementarianism, this is true of all toxic theology. Religious beliefs can … Continue reading Deconstruction & Self-Care
The topic of deconstruction has been coming up a lot lately with prominent figures speaking about their personal deconstruction and loss of faith. Deconstruction is a stage of faith that many go through when they stop accepting the faith they’ve been told they must have by their peers, families, and church communities. They begin to … Continue reading Deconstruction & Complementarianism
I’ve experienced all sorts of grief in my life. The loss of multiple jobs, relationships ending, seeing my parents marriage end, leaving home, and above all, the loss of a parent. In the last few months, like all of us, I’ve had another deep experience of grief, thanks to the global pandemic and its world-changing … Continue reading How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)
1 If the Lord had not been on our side— let Israel say—2 if the Lord had not been on our side when people attacked us,3 they would have swallowed us alive when their anger flared against us;4 the flood would have engulfed us, the torrent would have swept over us,5 the raging waters would have swept us away. 6 Praise be to the Lord, who has not let us be torn by their … Continue reading A Prayer for August 23, 2020
One massive issue that so many of us who have deconstructed struggle with is the question, "what is allowed for me?"Many of us have spent a lifetime being told what the lines were for us. We were allowed to believe this, not that. We were allowed to do this, not that. Boundaries were tightly enforced … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?
A short story about Pastor Jim Crandell who followed his convictions in leading his church through the pandemic. Does he trust medical experts & government leaders? Or does he trust God?
A prayer for August 9, based on today's reading from the lectionary: Romans 10:5-15
The Book of Longings by novelist Sue Monk Kidd is a new book that was released only months ago. The book takes a look at the life of Ana, the girl who would grow up to become the wife of Jesus. I initially decided against buying the book for a couple of reasons. First, I … Continue reading The Book of Longings (A Book Review)
I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity