J.O.Y.

Anyone else familiar with this acronym? For those not in the know, it represented what was supposed to be the hierarchy of needs within certain corners of evangelicalism as it was taught to children. It went:JesusOthersYourself Can we please talk about how toxic and damaging this is? What this teaches children is that, in the … Continue reading J.O.Y.

Evangelicalism: Martyr Complex And Shame

My upbringing in evangelicalism instilled me with a lot of shame for my identity. While I was told that the greatest thing in the world was to find my identity in Jesus, I was also taught that I would be hated because I found my identity in Jesus. I don't actually remember a time in … Continue reading Evangelicalism: Martyr Complex And Shame

A Monster Called Trauma

Yesterday I had a session with my therapist. I began to open up about something traumatic I had experienced. It's something that I've never had time or space to talk about or think about. Because part of being a Good Christian Girl™ is to keep quiet and keep the peace. But yesterday, I broke my … Continue reading A Monster Called Trauma

November Reads

Okay! Back on time with alllllll of the books that I read in November. As always, if you've read any of these books feel free to leave me a comment and let me know your own thoughts! The Old Curiosity Shop by Charles Dickens (Finished November 1) I seem to be getting back into classics, … Continue reading November Reads

Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

A relationship between two people is meant to be a two-way street. Both people are supposed to be invested in making it work. Both people need to be willing to compromise and work with the other person to maintain a healthy relationship where the needs of both are being met. This is true of all … Continue reading Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

Loving Yourself Is Not Sin

A few days ago, while looking through my memories on Facebook, I saw an old post of mine. In this post, I was talking about how, at the time, I genuinely believed that I was unlovable. I saw myself as someone who didn't deserve love or companionship because I felt inherently broken. I couldn't envision … Continue reading Loving Yourself Is Not Sin

Islamophobia and Christian Culture

Nearly 9 years ago, I was sitting in the audience of a small Bible conference in Calgary, Alberta in Canada. I and my family had been involved with Last Days Bible Conference since its very first days in 2002. I volunteered each year in selling merchandise for the speakers, and I briefly helped run the … Continue reading Islamophobia and Christian Culture

Does God Require Adversity?

"The fact is, God is not concerned whether we are happy or not. But he is very concerned over whether we are holy. We can be happy and on our way to hell. But if we are holy, it is only because the Holy One is at home in his temple, our hearts. So we … Continue reading Does God Require Adversity?

“Shameless” Review

Last night, I finished the latest book written by Nadia Bolz-Weber, “Shameless”. This is the book I wish I could have read 4 years ago when I was beginning to question the teaching I’d received my entire life from the church in regards to sexuality, gender roles, and the marginalized (particularly the LGBTQ+ community). Nadia … Continue reading “Shameless” Review

New Beliefs, Same Old Worldview

This is a topic that's been weighing on my heart a lot over the last year, particularly in recent weeks. In my conservative days, authoritarianism reigned supreme. We were told what to believe. We were told not to question. We were told not to disagree. We were told that if someone did not have the … Continue reading New Beliefs, Same Old Worldview