Anyone else familiar with this acronym? For those not in the know, it represented what was supposed to be the hierarchy of needs within certain corners of evangelicalism as it was taught to children. It went:JesusOthersYourself Can we please talk about how toxic and damaging this is? What this teaches children is that, in the … Continue reading J.O.Y.
My upbringing in evangelicalism instilled me with a lot of shame for my identity. While I was told that the greatest thing in the world was to find my identity in Jesus, I was also taught that I would be hated because I found my identity in Jesus. I don't actually remember a time in … Continue reading Evangelicalism: Martyr Complex And Shame
I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity
Context: I grew up in a Christian home, moving from reformed churches to non-denominational churches in my youth. I chose a charismatic/Spirit-filled church to attend for many years as an adult. During my college years, my theology changed from being unexamined/whatever my church said to a more middle of the road approach on the … Continue reading The Church and Mental Health: A New Perspective on Anxiety
I began to write this poem after watching the funeral of Rachel Held Evans. I listened to her friends and family describe her as a woman who always asked the hard questions, always loved, always gave of herself when she could. I couldn't stop thinking to myself, "They are talking about a woman who was … Continue reading Eshet Chayil
A few days ago, while looking through my memories on Facebook, I saw an old post of mine. In this post, I was talking about how, at the time, I genuinely believed that I was unlovable. I saw myself as someone who didn't deserve love or companionship because I felt inherently broken. I couldn't envision … Continue reading Loving Yourself Is Not Sin
"The fact is, God is not concerned whether we are happy or not. But he is very concerned over whether we are holy. We can be happy and on our way to hell. But if we are holy, it is only because the Holy One is at home in his temple, our hearts. So we … Continue reading Does God Require Adversity?
Last night, I finished the latest book written by Nadia Bolz-Weber, “Shameless”. This is the book I wish I could have read 4 years ago when I was beginning to question the teaching I’d received my entire life from the church in regards to sexuality, gender roles, and the marginalized (particularly the LGBTQ+ community). Nadia … Continue reading “Shameless” Review
This is a topic that's been weighing on my heart a lot over the last year, particularly in recent weeks. In my conservative days, authoritarianism reigned supreme. We were told what to believe. We were told not to question. We were told not to disagree. We were told that if someone did not have the … Continue reading New Beliefs, Same Old Worldview
Shame tells you that you are different. Shame tells you that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. Shame tells you that you have to hide so that no one knows how broken you are. Shame tells you that no one will love you as you are. Shame tells you that you will never be … Continue reading What Shame Tells You