I was asked recently how I think God views me. Does he judge me? Does he love me? Does he accept me? And I broke into tears as I took this question in and really tried to examine it. Intellectually, yes. I believe that I am deeply loved by the God of the universe. I … Continue reading Does God Really Love Me?
A discussion came up in one of my Facebook groups recently about people who hate children. Here was my comment: Hating children is no different than hating any other group of people It’s a reflection of where that person is. They have biases that are triggered by any number of things (upbringing, culture, trauma, etc...) … Continue reading No, It’s Not Okay To Hate Kids
Today, I received an email from someone through my site. Ordinarily, I would not choose to respond in such a public way to a person's private email, but since it is so exemplary of the boundary-crossing and obsessive mindset that I used to witness often during my time in Evangelicalism, I thought it would be … Continue reading An Open Letter to a Reader
“Charles sat quietly while I talked and didn’t say anything for a long time after. Then he said, “Are you angry that your parents didn’t put you in school?” “It was an advantage!” I said, half-shouting. My response was instinctive. It was like hearing a phrase from a catchy song: I couldn’t stop myself from … Continue reading The Skewed Reality of Family & Faith
A relationship between two people is meant to be a two-way street. Both people are supposed to be invested in making it work. Both people need to be willing to compromise and work with the other person to maintain a healthy relationship where the needs of both are being met. This is true of all … Continue reading Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer
I felt deep shame. My body shut down. I couldn’t speak. I couldn’t react. All I knew was that I needed to get away from him as quickly as possible. I excused myself by saying I needed to go sit in the backyard, but he was concerned and so he came to talk … Continue reading When Childhood Shame Lingers
Child abuse is often thought of as having physical or sexual elements to it. So it may surprise you to find out that child abuse (or any form of abuse, for that matter) does not have to include hitting or any form of physical contact. My own experience does include instances of hitting, but that … Continue reading Child Abuse Does Not Have To Be Physical
A few days ago, while looking through my memories on Facebook, I saw an old post of mine. In this post, I was talking about how, at the time, I genuinely believed that I was unlovable. I saw myself as someone who didn't deserve love or companionship because I felt inherently broken. I couldn't envision … Continue reading Loving Yourself Is Not Sin
The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice – Peggy O’Mara Recently, I had a discussion with my parents. It was a minor thing, or it was supposed to be. It's something that many adult children will have to face with their parents: the roles between parent and child shift. They become … Continue reading My Childhood Created My Inner Voice (And So Did Yours)
"The fact is, God is not concerned whether we are happy or not. But he is very concerned over whether we are holy. We can be happy and on our way to hell. But if we are holy, it is only because the Holy One is at home in his temple, our hearts. So we … Continue reading Does God Require Adversity?