What I’ve Learned In 35 Years

This past weekend, I celebrated a birthday. It was a milestone birthday. I turned 35. I don't know how I managed to blink my eyes at 25 and find myself at 35. I don't feel like I am 35. And yet, I am. So bizarre how that happens, right?But thinking about hitting this ripe old … Continue reading What I’ve Learned In 35 Years

Does God Really Love Me?

I was asked recently how I think God views me. Does he judge me? Does he love me? Does he accept me? And I broke into tears as I took this question in and really tried to examine it. Intellectually, yes. I believe that I am deeply loved by the God of the universe. I … Continue reading Does God Really Love Me?

An Open Letter to a Reader

Today, I received an email from someone through my site. Ordinarily, I would not choose to respond in such a public way to a person's private email, but since it is so exemplary of the boundary-crossing and obsessive mindset that I used to witness often during my time in Evangelicalism, I thought it would be … Continue reading An Open Letter to a Reader

Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

A relationship between two people is meant to be a two-way street. Both people are supposed to be invested in making it work. Both people need to be willing to compromise and work with the other person to maintain a healthy relationship where the needs of both are being met. This is true of all … Continue reading Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

Loving Yourself Is Not Sin

A few days ago, while looking through my memories on Facebook, I saw an old post of mine. In this post, I was talking about how, at the time, I genuinely believed that I was unlovable. I saw myself as someone who didn't deserve love or companionship because I felt inherently broken. I couldn't envision … Continue reading Loving Yourself Is Not Sin

Does God Require Adversity?

"The fact is, God is not concerned whether we are happy or not. But he is very concerned over whether we are holy. We can be happy and on our way to hell. But if we are holy, it is only because the Holy One is at home in his temple, our hearts. So we … Continue reading Does God Require Adversity?

What Shame Tells You

Shame tells you that you are different. Shame tells you that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. Shame tells you that you have to hide so that no one knows how broken you are. Shame tells you that no one will love you as you are. Shame tells you that you will never be … Continue reading What Shame Tells You