This poem was written from the point of view of someone who has escaped an abusive situation. It's an actual dream that I had recently. I think the dynamics will feel familiar to anyone who has been in a similar situation; when an abusive person is upset, they are never at fault. It's always someone … Continue reading A Survivor’s Dream (A Poem)
Anyone else familiar with this acronym? For those not in the know, it represented what was supposed to be the hierarchy of needs within certain corners of evangelicalism as it was taught to children. It went:JesusOthersYourself Can we please talk about how toxic and damaging this is? What this teaches children is that, in the … Continue reading J.O.Y.
Conspiracy theories are insidious and powerful. They often come from the people we trust the most: our friends, our families, our spiritual leaders, even our government leaders. These are the people with whom we tend to have our guards down because we trust them inherently. We believe that they would never - could never - … Continue reading Conspiracy Theories: Conclusion Vs Fact
My upbringing in evangelicalism instilled me with a lot of shame for my identity. While I was told that the greatest thing in the world was to find my identity in Jesus, I was also taught that I would be hated because I found my identity in Jesus. I don't actually remember a time in … Continue reading Evangelicalism: Martyr Complex And Shame
I grew up being told that homosexuality is wrong, because the Bible is clear. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that the OT doesn't forbid same-sex relationships between women. Or that the "homosexuality" referred to in the NT wasn't at all what we mean when we talk about homosexuality today. All my life, I was … Continue reading The Bible Isn’t Clear
I’ve experienced all sorts of grief in my life. The loss of multiple jobs, relationships ending, seeing my parents marriage end, leaving home, and above all, the loss of a parent. In the last few months, like all of us, I’ve had another deep experience of grief, thanks to the global pandemic and its world-changing … Continue reading How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)
I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity
This past weekend, I celebrated a birthday. It was a milestone birthday. I turned 35. I don't know how I managed to blink my eyes at 25 and find myself at 35. I don't feel like I am 35. And yet, I am. So bizarre how that happens, right?But thinking about hitting this ripe old … Continue reading What I’ve Learned In 35 Years
I've been on a self-compassion kick lately. It started a few month ago when I happened to stumble across a workbook at a bookstore. The workbook was called, "The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook" by Kristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD. The workbook introduced me to a whole new way of speaking to myself and understanding … Continue reading The Power of Self-Compassion by Laurie Cameron (A Book Review)
I was asked recently how I think God views me. Does he judge me? Does he love me? Does he accept me? And I broke into tears as I took this question in and really tried to examine it. Intellectually, yes. I believe that I am deeply loved by the God of the universe. I … Continue reading Does God Really Love Me?