Deconstruction & Self-Care

Last week, I discussed deconstruction & complementarianism. I acknowledged how being immersed in a subculture that dictates to us how we should view and think of ourselves can have a devastating impact on one's mental health. While my focus in that post was on complementarianism, this is true of all toxic theology. Religious beliefs can … Continue reading Deconstruction & Self-Care

Deconstruction & Complementarianism

The topic of deconstruction has been coming up a lot lately with prominent figures speaking about their personal deconstruction and loss of faith. Deconstruction is a stage of faith that many go through when they stop accepting the faith they’ve been told they must have by their peers, families, and church communities. They begin to … Continue reading Deconstruction & Complementarianism

How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)

I’ve experienced all sorts of grief in my life. The loss of multiple jobs, relationships ending, seeing my parents marriage end, leaving home, and above all, the loss of a parent.  In the last few months, like all of us, I’ve had another deep experience of grief, thanks to the global pandemic and its world-changing … Continue reading How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)

A Prayer for August 23, 2020

1 If the Lord had not been on our side—    let Israel say—2 if the Lord had not been on our side    when people attacked us,3 they would have swallowed us alive    when their anger flared against us;4 the flood would have engulfed us,    the torrent would have swept over us,5 the raging waters    would have swept us away. 6 Praise be to the Lord,    who has not let us be torn by their … Continue reading A Prayer for August 23, 2020

Where Do We Go From Here?

One massive issue that so many of us who have deconstructed struggle with is the question, "what is allowed for me?"Many of us have spent a lifetime being told what the lines were for us. We were allowed to believe this, not that. We were allowed to do this, not that. Boundaries were tightly enforced … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?

The Short Story of Pastor Jim Crandell

A short story about Pastor Jim Crandell who followed his convictions in leading his church through the pandemic. Does he trust medical experts & government leaders? Or does he trust God?

The Book of Longings (A Book Review)

The Book of Longings by novelist Sue Monk Kidd is a new book that was released only months ago. The book takes a look at the life of Ana, the girl who would grow up to become the wife of Jesus. I initially decided against buying the book for a couple of reasons. First, I … Continue reading The Book of Longings (A Book Review)

Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

A Prayer For August 2, 2020

1 Hear a just cause, O Lord; attend to my cry;    give ear to my prayer from lips free of deceit.2 From you let my vindication come;    let your eyes see the right. 3 If you try my heart, if you visit me by night,    if you test me, you will find no wickedness in me;    my mouth does not transgress.4 As for what … Continue reading A Prayer For August 2, 2020