I am heartbroken. Utterly heartbroken. I don't know what to do with my grief. I don't know how to sit with all of this anger and shock and sadness. I just don't know. I've been quietly pushing back against dominionism and White christian nationalism for years. But most people could not see it. Until now.And … Continue reading What Happens Now?
Last week, I discussed deconstruction & complementarianism. I acknowledged how being immersed in a subculture that dictates to us how we should view and think of ourselves can have a devastating impact on one's mental health. While my focus in that post was on complementarianism, this is true of all toxic theology. Religious beliefs can … Continue reading Deconstruction & Self-Care
One massive issue that so many of us who have deconstructed struggle with is the question, "what is allowed for me?"Many of us have spent a lifetime being told what the lines were for us. We were allowed to believe this, not that. We were allowed to do this, not that. Boundaries were tightly enforced … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?
Never The Good Girl by Shari A Smith March 5, 2020 She never was the good girl She never played by the rules Every time they tried to lock her in She always found a way out She wasn’t supposed to wear these clothes The kind that bared her shoulders The kind that bared her … Continue reading Never The Good Girl (A Poem)
I'm sure I am not the only Christian who has grown up hearing nonChristians, particularly Atheists, otherized. Growing up in Evangelicalism, we were constantly quoting Psalm 14:1 to equate Atheism to foolishness. We were given caricatures of Atheists and told they were truthful representations of who Atheists were. And then we laughed about how someone … Continue reading There Is No Atheist Agenda
I occasionally hear people asking why those of us who have left Evangelicalism continue to talk about our issues with the movement. There are a lot of people out there who truly do not understand why so many of us feel compelled to keep speaking up about our experiences and the impact that Evangelicalism has … Continue reading Why I Speak Up
Okay. I just put this book down mere moments ago, and I am fully enveloped by the "book hangover" effect. This book felt personal to me. Having grown up in a cult-like family, myself, where I was taught from birth that we were part of a small faithful remnant. We had all of the answers … Continue reading Unfollow by Megan Phelps-Roper (A Book Review)
“The knowledge that I had soaked up and parroted back to the choir told them that I was an approved child of God. I had found the key to life buried amongst my books and conference notes that I had diligently scribbled as I sought to expand my understanding of God and the gospel. I was the picture of a saved and anointed woman. Until the truth that I began to speak broke from what was permissible for us.”
When I was a very little girl of about 6, someone in my family began to exhibit the first warning signs of what would later turn into severe mental illness. My family was made up of good evangelicals who trusted our pastor to point us in the right direction. However, this pastor made a very … Continue reading Wolves Walk Among Us
WALKING AWAY It's Okay to not be an Evangelical. If you had said these words to me even 5 years ago, I would not have believed you. I'd been taught my entire life that it was only the Evangelical church that held the truth (and only select individuals within that group). I was taught to … Continue reading It’s Okay to Walk Away