A Survivor’s Dream (A Poem)

This poem was written from the point of view of someone who has escaped an abusive situation. It's an actual dream that I had recently. I think the dynamics will feel familiar to anyone who has been in a similar situation; when an abusive person is upset, they are never at fault. It's always someone … Continue reading A Survivor’s Dream (A Poem)

Apologetics: For Them or For Us?

I know I wasn't the only one who grew up in White evangelicalism who was taught to love the art of apologetics. Oh we spent so much time pouring over books, attending conferences, watching debates, and learning our scripts to argue the faithless and heretics into the truth. We knew exactly how to trap someone … Continue reading Apologetics: For Them or For Us?

The Bible Isn’t Clear

I grew up being told that homosexuality is wrong, because the Bible is clear. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that the OT doesn't forbid same-sex relationships between women. Or that the "homosexuality" referred to in the NT wasn't at all what we mean when we talk about homosexuality today. All my life, I was … Continue reading The Bible Isn’t Clear

Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

Unfollow by Megan Phelps-Roper (A Book Review)

Okay. I just put this book down mere moments ago, and I am fully enveloped by the "book hangover" effect. This book felt personal to me. Having grown up in a cult-like family, myself, where I was taught from birth that we were part of a small faithful remnant. We had all of the answers … Continue reading Unfollow by Megan Phelps-Roper (A Book Review)

Wolves Walk Among Us

When I was a very little girl of about 6, someone in my family began to exhibit the first warning signs of what would later turn into severe mental illness. My family was made up of good evangelicals who trusted our pastor to point us in the right direction. However, this pastor made a very … Continue reading Wolves Walk Among Us