Anyone else familiar with this acronym? For those not in the know, it represented what was supposed to be the hierarchy of needs within certain corners of evangelicalism as it was taught to children. It went:JesusOthersYourself Can we please talk about how toxic and damaging this is? What this teaches children is that, in the … Continue reading J.O.Y.
I grew up being told that homosexuality is wrong, because the Bible is clear. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that the OT doesn't forbid same-sex relationships between women. Or that the "homosexuality" referred to in the NT wasn't at all what we mean when we talk about homosexuality today. All my life, I was … Continue reading The Bible Isn’t Clear
a poem about the love of my life; the man my Christian culture told me to avoid.
Last week, I discussed deconstruction & complementarianism. I acknowledged how being immersed in a subculture that dictates to us how we should view and think of ourselves can have a devastating impact on one's mental health. While my focus in that post was on complementarianism, this is true of all toxic theology. Religious beliefs can … Continue reading Deconstruction & Self-Care
The topic of deconstruction has been coming up a lot lately with prominent figures speaking about their personal deconstruction and loss of faith. Deconstruction is a stage of faith that many go through when they stop accepting the faith they’ve been told they must have by their peers, families, and church communities. They begin to … Continue reading Deconstruction & Complementarianism
I’ve experienced all sorts of grief in my life. The loss of multiple jobs, relationships ending, seeing my parents marriage end, leaving home, and above all, the loss of a parent. In the last few months, like all of us, I’ve had another deep experience of grief, thanks to the global pandemic and its world-changing … Continue reading How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)
1 If the Lord had not been on our side— let Israel say—2 if the Lord had not been on our side when people attacked us,3 they would have swallowed us alive when their anger flared against us;4 the flood would have engulfed us, the torrent would have swept over us,5 the raging waters would have swept us away. 6 Praise be to the Lord, who has not let us be torn by their … Continue reading A Prayer for August 23, 2020
One massive issue that so many of us who have deconstructed struggle with is the question, "what is allowed for me?"Many of us have spent a lifetime being told what the lines were for us. We were allowed to believe this, not that. We were allowed to do this, not that. Boundaries were tightly enforced … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?
Okay. I just put this book down mere moments ago, and I am fully enveloped by the "book hangover" effect. This book felt personal to me. Having grown up in a cult-like family, myself, where I was taught from birth that we were part of a small faithful remnant. We had all of the answers … Continue reading Unfollow by Megan Phelps-Roper (A Book Review)
“The knowledge that I had soaked up and parroted back to the choir told them that I was an approved child of God. I had found the key to life buried amongst my books and conference notes that I had diligently scribbled as I sought to expand my understanding of God and the gospel. I was the picture of a saved and anointed woman. Until the truth that I began to speak broke from what was permissible for us.”