Holy Weekend

Good FridayTime of death was calledHope has evaporatedWhere do we go from here?How could our Love leave us like this?He was supposed to beThe MessiahThe RevolutionaryThe KingHow did this happen?Where do we go from here? Holy SaturdayGrief hangs heavy in the airWeighing heavy on our soulsCrushing usPushing usDown to our kneesOur Love is goneSwallowed by … Continue reading Holy Weekend

Apologetics: For Them or For Us?

I know I wasn't the only one who grew up in White evangelicalism who was taught to love the art of apologetics. Oh we spent so much time pouring over books, attending conferences, watching debates, and learning our scripts to argue the faithless and heretics into the truth. We knew exactly how to trap someone … Continue reading Apologetics: For Them or For Us?

J.O.Y.

Anyone else familiar with this acronym? For those not in the know, it represented what was supposed to be the hierarchy of needs within certain corners of evangelicalism as it was taught to children. It went:JesusOthersYourself Can we please talk about how toxic and damaging this is? What this teaches children is that, in the … Continue reading J.O.Y.

The Bible Isn’t Clear

I grew up being told that homosexuality is wrong, because the Bible is clear. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that the OT doesn't forbid same-sex relationships between women. Or that the "homosexuality" referred to in the NT wasn't at all what we mean when we talk about homosexuality today. All my life, I was … Continue reading The Bible Isn’t Clear

They Told Me To Find A Love

a poem about the love of my life; the man my Christian culture told me to avoid.

Deconstruction & Self-Care

Last week, I discussed deconstruction & complementarianism. I acknowledged how being immersed in a subculture that dictates to us how we should view and think of ourselves can have a devastating impact on one's mental health. While my focus in that post was on complementarianism, this is true of all toxic theology. Religious beliefs can … Continue reading Deconstruction & Self-Care

Deconstruction & Complementarianism

The topic of deconstruction has been coming up a lot lately with prominent figures speaking about their personal deconstruction and loss of faith. Deconstruction is a stage of faith that many go through when they stop accepting the faith they’ve been told they must have by their peers, families, and church communities. They begin to … Continue reading Deconstruction & Complementarianism

How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)

I’ve experienced all sorts of grief in my life. The loss of multiple jobs, relationships ending, seeing my parents marriage end, leaving home, and above all, the loss of a parent.  In the last few months, like all of us, I’ve had another deep experience of grief, thanks to the global pandemic and its world-changing … Continue reading How Healthy Grieving Leads To Healthy Deconstruction (Guest Post from James Prescott)

A Prayer for August 23, 2020

1 If the Lord had not been on our side—    let Israel say—2 if the Lord had not been on our side    when people attacked us,3 they would have swallowed us alive    when their anger flared against us;4 the flood would have engulfed us,    the torrent would have swept over us,5 the raging waters    would have swept us away. 6 Praise be to the Lord,    who has not let us be torn by their … Continue reading A Prayer for August 23, 2020

Where Do We Go From Here?

One massive issue that so many of us who have deconstructed struggle with is the question, "what is allowed for me?"Many of us have spent a lifetime being told what the lines were for us. We were allowed to believe this, not that. We were allowed to do this, not that. Boundaries were tightly enforced … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?