Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

No, It’s Not Okay To Hate Kids

A discussion came up in one of my Facebook groups recently about people who hate children. Here was my comment: Hating children is no different than hating any other group of people It’s a reflection of where that person is. They have biases that are triggered by any number of things (upbringing, culture, trauma, etc...) … Continue reading No, It’s Not Okay To Hate Kids

Sadness is not Normal

One day, when I was about 7 years old, I felt deeply sad. I couldn’t tell you what I was sad about. I wasn’t able to articulate it at the time, and the trigger(s) have been lost to the sands of time. I do remember talking to an adult in my life and trying to … Continue reading Sadness is not Normal

My Childhood Created My Inner Voice (And So Did Yours)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice – Peggy O’Mara Recently, I had a discussion with my parents. It was a minor thing, or it was supposed to be. It's something that many adult children will have to face with their parents: the roles between parent and child shift. They become … Continue reading My Childhood Created My Inner Voice (And So Did Yours)

Feelings Are Not a Threat to Our Spiritual Safety

The heart is deceitful. We can not trust our own emotions. We must use reason above all else because God gave us brains and He intends us to use them. If you're like me, these are all things you've likely been told during your entire experience with the conservative evangelical church. We're told to fear … Continue reading Feelings Are Not a Threat to Our Spiritual Safety