An Open Letter to a Reader

Today, I received an email from someone through my site. Ordinarily, I would not choose to respond in such a public way to a person's private email, but since it is so exemplary of the boundary-crossing and obsessive mindset that I used to witness often during my time in Evangelicalism, I thought it would be … Continue reading An Open Letter to a Reader

October Reads

This one is much later than I planned. Life happened, and it got delayed. I'm rethinking my monthly posts on this subject. I feel like I come across so much good content in a month: books, articles, podcasts, even music that I would love to expand how I catalogue everything that has spoken to me. … Continue reading October Reads

The Skewed Reality of Family & Faith

“Charles sat quietly while I talked and didn’t say anything for a long time after. Then he said, “Are you angry that your parents didn’t put you in school?” “It was an advantage!” I said, half-shouting. My response was instinctive. It was like hearing a phrase from a catchy song: I couldn’t stop myself from … Continue reading The Skewed Reality of Family & Faith

White Women, We Need To Do Better

Note: In this article, I have repeatedly used the term, "POC". I have received a comment suggesting that this is not a helpful term. I'm leaving the article as is written along with the comment at the end in order to be a learning tool. I made a mistake that made someone feel uncomfortable, and … Continue reading White Women, We Need To Do Better

Therapy Is Always A Good Choice

In honour of National Mental Health Day, I thought today might be a good one to talk a little bit about my journey with therapy. I grew up in a family and a faith system where psychology was eyed with great suspicion. I’d heard all the usual fundamentalist anxiety about Jung’s heretical beliefs, and Freud’s … Continue reading Therapy Is Always A Good Choice

September Reads

Another month has gone by and a new list of books has been added to my “finished reading” list on Good Reads!   Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (Finished September 14) This is a classic that I find myself returning to again and again. I don’t even care that it’s a cliché for a … Continue reading September Reads

Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

A relationship between two people is meant to be a two-way street. Both people are supposed to be invested in making it work. Both people need to be willing to compromise and work with the other person to maintain a healthy relationship where the needs of both are being met. This is true of all … Continue reading Reconciliation Is Not Always the Answer

August Reads

I am back to reading more than just novels in August. I am learning more about women and their role in culture, the Bible, and even in history. And I am learning some fascinating things. Women are amazing and powerful creatures that society needs to stop underestimating. We are capable of so much, even in … Continue reading August Reads

When Childhood Shame Lingers

    I felt deep shame. My body shut down. I couldn’t speak. I couldn’t react. All I knew was that I needed to get away from him as quickly as possible. I excused myself by saying I needed to go sit in the backyard, but he was concerned and so he came to talk … Continue reading When Childhood Shame Lingers

The Church and Mental Health: A New Perspective on Anxiety

  Context: I grew up in a Christian home, moving from reformed churches to non-denominational churches in my youth. I chose a charismatic/Spirit-filled church to attend for many years as an adult. During my college years, my theology changed from being unexamined/whatever my church said to a more middle of the road approach on the … Continue reading The Church and Mental Health: A New Perspective on Anxiety