Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

I grew up with a dry emotional well. I didn't want to know more because I didn't know there was more to learn- we didn't discuss feelings. We didn't do vulnerability. If we happened to get so overwhelmed by emotion that tears or a look of fear physically breached our tough veneer, we were promptly … Continue reading Spiritual bypassing and Emotional Maturity

What I’ve Learned In 35 Years

This past weekend, I celebrated a birthday. It was a milestone birthday. I turned 35. I don't know how I managed to blink my eyes at 25 and find myself at 35. I don't feel like I am 35. And yet, I am. So bizarre how that happens, right?But thinking about hitting this ripe old … Continue reading What I’ve Learned In 35 Years

Never The Good Girl (A Poem)

Never The Good Girl by Shari A Smith March 5, 2020 She never was the good girl She never played by the rules Every time they tried to lock her in She always found a way out She wasn’t supposed to wear these clothes The kind that bared her shoulders The kind that bared her … Continue reading Never The Good Girl (A Poem)

The Power of Self-Compassion by Laurie Cameron (A Book Review)

I've been on a self-compassion kick lately. It started a few month ago when I happened to stumble across a workbook at a bookstore. The workbook was called, "The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook" by Kristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD. The workbook introduced me to a whole new way of speaking to myself and understanding … Continue reading The Power of Self-Compassion by Laurie Cameron (A Book Review)

Does God Really Love Me?

I was asked recently how I think God views me. Does he judge me? Does he love me? Does he accept me? And I broke into tears as I took this question in and really tried to examine it. Intellectually, yes. I believe that I am deeply loved by the God of the universe. I … Continue reading Does God Really Love Me?

A Monster Called Trauma

Yesterday I had a session with my therapist. I began to open up about something traumatic I had experienced. It's something that I've never had time or space to talk about or think about. Because part of being a Good Christian Girl™ is to keep quiet and keep the peace. But yesterday, I broke my … Continue reading A Monster Called Trauma

Fierce, Free, And Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker

Okay, I admit it. I am a bit late with my review. I was overjoyed a couple of months ago when I found out that not only would I be a part of Jen Hatmaker's launch team for her latest book, "Fierce, Free, And Full of Fire", but I was also one of a group … Continue reading Fierce, Free, And Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker

Mental Health in the midst of Pandemic

How are we all doing today? I'll be honest, I am struggling. I'm lucky. My partner has his job. We have a roof over our heads and food in our fridge. We're young and reasonably healthy. We're able to practice social distancing to protect ourselves and others. I know I am lucky. I know there … Continue reading Mental Health in the midst of Pandemic

November Reads

Okay! Back on time with alllllll of the books that I read in November. As always, if you've read any of these books feel free to leave me a comment and let me know your own thoughts! The Old Curiosity Shop by Charles Dickens (Finished November 1) I seem to be getting back into classics, … Continue reading November Reads